This is a sponsored conversation written by me on behalf of Kindred.
All opinions expressed are 100% honest and my own.
Throughout my life I always struggled with friendships. I can be sarcastic, emotional, awkward, and brutally honest, and I don’t put up with any bull. Because of that, and my increasing social anxieties over the years, and the fact that people are ever changing, I have lost many friends. And I feel like after I had my daughter it got even worse. It’s SO difficult to meet people when you are an adult and aren’t in school, but to make (and keep) friends once you have kids can be even tougher. Suddenly you don’t have as much in common with your childless friends, and you may not know anyone who has kids yet, either. Sure, you can meet people at play groups and children’s events, but that doesn’t always happen when you’re busy watching your kids. I take B to play group often and I have yet to have another mom really make conversation with me. They’re all doing the same thing as me – watching their kid, and running from activity to activity with them. Guiding them as they learn, explore, and play. Which is really great, and it’s so wonderful to see the children learning through play, but it feels lonely in a room full of people – and it’s sad!
Kindred is an app whose Kickstarter campaign is launching next month. The goal of Kindred is to connect like-minded mothers of all kinds. This means soon-to-be mothers, future mothers who are trying to conceive, mothers who have suffered loss, mothers with one child, mothers with more than one child, and mothers whose children are older, in school, or have even flown the coop! Step mothers, adoptive mothers, mothers who work, and mothers who stay at home. Everyone is welcome and everyone is encouraged to connect with other mothers.
Kindred is fun! You will see a mommy match screen where you can decide if you’d like to talk to the mom you’re seeing. If it’s a match you will get a confirmation, and then Kindred will help you break the ice and spark conversation with an opening question for each mom to answer.
Here is what the creator of Kindred, Christina, has to say about her app:
“As moms we are thrown into the diaper dungeon and uprooted from our pre-kid lives fairly quickly. For me it was was very abrupt and a bumpy ride to where I am now. I graduated college with a degree in Civil Engineering and after dragging my feet on getting a “big girl” job I decided to go down the financial adviser route… then I got pregnant with my son James. At that time in my life I was going out and partying often, and as soon as I got pregnant it felt like my life stopped. My boyfriend at the time was not supportive of the pregnancy at all.
I didn’t realize it then, but I was suffering from Postpartum Depression pretty bad, and I didn’t feel comfortable being alone with my baby for extended periods of time. I loved him, but I didn’t feel the warm butterfly feelings everyone always talked about. I was always anxious around him. My boyfriend stayed at home with him while I worked 10 hour days to make ends meet. I assumed things would get better as time went on but my boyfriend began to drink during the day while he was supposed to be watching our son, and became very verbally abusive to us both. I called it quits and left him in order to give James a better life.
After leaving my boyfriend I moved out on my own and met my husband. He took James and I under his wing. Soon I became pregnant with my second child, Leo. I realized more and more with each passing day that I had suffered from Postpartum Depression when I had James, and didn’t have the help or support to realize it. I was so consumed by it that I thought that was how motherhood was, to be miserable. It is a night and day difference with Leo, and the level of connection I had between my boys when they were born. I work every day to restore what was not established when James was a baby and pray that we can reach a better level of closeness as time goes on.
That is why I created Kindred. I know there are almost a MILLION moms out there that suffer from Postpartum Depression annually and that those are only the self reported cases. Moms feel alone and isolated. I wish that Kindred had existed for me to connect with other moms when I first had James or even when I was pregnant with him. My parents were not supportive of the pregnancy and my friends at the time were still in party mode. Heck, my ex still went out to the bars up until my water broke… and even the day James was born! If I had been able to connect with other moms and feel welcomed, I think I would have been able to enjoy my pregnancy and new baby instead of dreading it and feeling anxious the entire time. Or I at least would have known to seek help.
Every mom has a different story in life, but with the Kindred app we will help you find moms who walk the same path as you, feel the same as you, and most importantly, understand and support you.”
Get to know Christina more below!
My name is Christina and this is my momming life!
I have a loving husband and two wonderful boys ages 3 and 1 1/2. Pre-kids I graduated college with a degree in Engineering, and now that I am a full time mom I use my math skills in other ways, like number of diapers to wipes ratios and baking conversions. I love connecting with moms from all over and hearing about other people’s stories from the diaper dungeon!
Connect with Christina and stay up-to-date with Kindred’s Kickstarter campaign by following along on Instagram or on Facebook. PLUS you can sign up for updates directly at jointeamkindred.com, and just for signing up you have a chance to WIN a Tula baby carrier!
What do you think of Kindred? Is this something you would use in your quest for mom connections?