For the people in my life it is no surprise for me to say that I am a sensitive person. I wear my heart on my sleeve, and I react with my emotions before my mind, sometimes. It can be really difficult to navigate through life sometimes, or through confusing/difficult situations. Everything I feel – I feel 100%. It cane much more difficult to make and keep friends when you’re a sensitive person, because many people just will not understand you. I’ve learned to accept this, but it still upsets me (you know, because of being sensitive and all that). Last night something happened that I reacted sensitively to (big surprise haha), and I had a hard time sleeping. I had so many thoughts on my mind, so I thought I’d write up a little post about this subject. I know for sure there are other sensitive people out there.
What is Life Like for Sensitive People?
1. We react with our emotions
This means that when other people feel something and they come to us about it, we may feel it, too. Recently a friend was talking to me about her break up, and I cried for her. She was sad and I could feel her pain in our conversation. Reacting with emotions can cause problems though because when a situation is negative or uncomfortable, your response to it can cause people to react strangely to you. It’s quite difficult to just “stop feeling”, so sometimes you just have to accept that. But if you want to try and avoid this, I recommend removing yourself from the situation entirely. If you’re sensitive like me, you’ll like re-visit it often, whether it be in your thoughts or by re-reading a conversation over and over, but you should avoid this however you can. If you need to delete people from social media, delete them. If you need to tell your friends you need some time to reflect and you’ll call/see them again soon, do it. Your happiness and health should be your number one priority.
2. We may not handle criticism well
For most of us constructive criticism remains that – constructive. But for people who are very sensitive, they may feel very hurt or offended by criticisms, even if they were not meant to be taken negatively. Because of this they may attempt to please everyone around them so as to avoid criticism.
3. We may not navigate social situations like you do
If you notice a friend to be “emotional” or take things to heart, they are likely a sensitive person. The best way to help them is to be understanding, and have patience. Communicate your feelings with them. Avoid saying things like “you’re being sensitive” or “you’re overreacting”, because they can’t help that. Instead, try saying something like “tell me why you feel how you do”, or “how can I help you feel better about this?”.
4. We don’t handle being ignored well
When you ignore a sensitive person they likely will take it very personally, and over-analyze everything that you have said to them and that they have said to you. There could be a very honest reason for your lack of a response, but they likely are wondering what they did wrong, or are very upset about it. So if you don’t respond to something a friend said, don’t necessarily feel bad or obligated, as we all have our own lives and responsibilities – but just understand that if you ignore someone sensitive in the middle of a conversation, they are likely to misinterpret it.
5. Everything we feel, we really feel
We tend to care more deeply about our friends, and sometimes we can feel closer to someone than they may to us. Our emotions can cause us negative problems, but our emotions can also be amazing. It’s wonderful to feel love, or to truly care deeply for people. We may end up being more hurt than normal by the end of any type of relationship, however.
I’m not saying that I expect people to adjust their lives to accommodate someone just because they are more sensitive, I know that their emotions are not your fault. But perhaps now you have realized that someone in your life is extra sensitive, and maybe this has helped open your eyes to how things are for them, or why they responded to a situation a certain way. If you communicate with them with openness, empathy, honesty, and understanding, it is unlikely that you will have any issues understanding your sensitive loved one.
What did you think of my list? Are you sensitive? Anything you would add?
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